Author Archives: Arika

When I Forget to Give it to God

Hi to all the “other selves”. This one is learning about forgiveness and letting go and letting God, in a whole new way. Remembering that there is only one, so forgiveness is always self-forgiveness. And when I say God, I don’t mean the Christian man in the sky. I mean source, spirit, the essence ofContinue reading “When I Forget to Give it to God”

Everyone is my Guru

You ask life to show you where you are not free. It delivers. This has been my lived experience over the last few months. It has shown up most clearly for me in parenting and in sexual relating. In this moment, free from strong identification with my human story, I see that you are allContinue reading “Everyone is my Guru”

Choosing Devotion: To You, To Me, To All

Before I go any further, I want to be clear about the plane of reality I’m speaking from. In an absolute sense, there is only pure awareness. Through my own experience, I’ve come to know this human life as a kind of dream, an illusion most of us believe in as real most of theContinue reading “Choosing Devotion: To You, To Me, To All”

Another Lesson in the School of Life

Introduction What I’ve really seen through this recent lesson is how, in the past, whenever I’ve gone through breakdowns, I’ve made it mean I’m too broken to help anybody. I’ve hidden my gifts. I’ve played small again. But through all the work and training I’ve been doing lately, I’ve faced how stingy that is. MyContinue reading “Another Lesson in the School of Life”

Another Level of Purification

Holy shit. My shadows have been shown to me from every angle lately. And I know that when I step up and play a bigger game, when I say yes to coaching, to transformational work, life is going to show me every place where I’m not yet walking my talk, and that’s exactly what’s beenContinue reading “Another Level of Purification”

Holding Rage With Love

I remember one moment in particular that taught me more about parenting than any book ever could. My middle son was around six. He’d been gaming for hours and had skipped lunch. By mid-afternoon, he was spiralling. Hungry, dysregulated, and completely overwhelmed. He started screaming at me to make him food. Yelling that I’d promisedContinue reading “Holding Rage With Love”

This Isn’t About Me: Awakening in Service to the Whole

I have been watching Cory Katuna’s new podcast “Perspective.” Her 4th episode is the most relevant to my journey yet. I’ve included it at the bottom of this post. Cory is one of the clearest, wisest woman that’s ever come into my field. I found out about her as she joined Bentinho Massaro’s team. IContinue reading “This Isn’t About Me: Awakening in Service to the Whole”

Not Another Opinion. A Frequency Shift

A call to speak from silence, not from noise. I keep seeing posts from well-meaning people pouring their energy outwards. Pointing fingers. Naming enemies. Fighting what’s wrong. Reposting outrage like it’s activism. But what if all that energy was turned inward? What if instead of trying to fix “them,” we transmuted us? What if theContinue reading “Not Another Opinion. A Frequency Shift”

If I See War Out There, Then There Is War In Here

This question has consumed my thoughts lately. Well, I have many questions. But it all keeps circling back to this one. How can I live a joyful life when others are suffering? For as long as I can remember, I’ve contemplated this question. When I was younger, caught in the grips of mental illness, IContinue reading “If I See War Out There, Then There Is War In Here”