There’s a lot of talk about love lately.
A lot of questions.
Attempting to define the undefinable.
It’s not to really find answers but to question what we think we know.
I find what I think I know gets in the way of love.
These two are some of my biggest teachers at the moment.
I once heard Jim Carey say, “I wish everyone was rich and famous so that they’d see that’s not it.” Or something.
I wish we could all have what we think we want so that we can see that it’s not “it.”
This is my experience of life.
I know if I “had it all,” it wouldn’t be enough.
But just a pointer to show me that what I want is always, already here.
Romantic intimate relationships are the ones that, in my experience, come with the most layers of programming that get in the way of love.
I could have none, I could have two, and I could have ten.
Whatever I have in the moment is the exact medicine I need to show me what is getting in the way of love.
I came back to surrender, devotion, and service to life a few moments ago.
The moment’s before that I was in my head, thinking about how to transform my experiences of slight discomfort that have arisen.
But we can’t solve a problem from the same perspective it was created.
I can’t transform my state from the same thought patterns that created it.
There are no answers. There is no working it out.
There is breath, there is surrender, and there is presence.
There has been some talk around relationship labels lately.
I choose non monogamy as it is the choice that supports me to be the most loving version of myself and continually transform attachment, possessiveness, jealousy, expectations, programming and all that gets in the way of love.
Which is really all I want for all of us.
To get out of our own way and be love. However we do it.
Arika Yaeli 